Alternatively, you can use the messaging built into social networks or dating sites

Alternatively, you can use the messaging built into social networks or dating sites

OkCupid, Twitter, and Snapchat all have messaging built-in. If you go down this path, we recommend using a separate account than the one you use day to day. This makes it less likely that you’ll accidentally post something you didn’t want to share, and lets you guard your identity. Keep in mind, however, that these services don’t necessarily put privacy first. If you go this route, you’ll want to take steps to hide who you are in the sign-up process, using a disposable email address or a secondary phone number.

There are lots of other options for sending secure messages, such as Wickr and Briar, and semi-anonymous messaging like Kik. Each has its own set of advantages and disadvantages, and we recommend doing a little research before you dive in. Make sure you know how messages are stored, whether or not they are encrypted, and whether someone other than the recipient can access them.

Whatever you do, don’t reuse passwords. If you use the same passwords across accounts, and one account gets hacked, the hackers will go around trying your password on other accounts. It will happen! It’s perhaps one of the most common ways people get “hacked.” Don’t do it! Use a password manager and batten down your password security.

A Responsible, Sexy Steward

While most people are concerned about the risks of sending sexts, there are risks and responsibilities for receiving them, too.

Be mindful of your backups. Contrary to most advice you’ll hear about photos on your smartphone, don’t back up photos automatically when you’re sexting. Continue reading